Only use this tool once your anger intensity has dropped and the immediate situation is safe. If you are still highly activated, start with “After the Blow-Up” instead.
Repair Without Excuses
Take responsibility for your part, acknowledge the impact and decide what needs to change.
Step 1 of 6Replay it without reliving it
Replay it without reliving it
Repair does not mean taking responsibility for everything. It means taking responsibility for what you did, said or failed to do.
Describe what happened as if watching a short replay.
Do not use this section to build a case against the other person.